Pity Your Bully

You should honestly pity your bully

Why should you pity bullies?   They are sad individuals who have allowed hate to consume their life.  The power they gain from being a bully is much like a drug addict, being a bully is their Cocaine.    They continue with the bullying because they gain a high, they are addicted to the power being a bully gives them.  Their bullying behavior will eventually lead to failed relationships, a life filled  with drama, and in the end will be a life of sadness.  If you allow the bully to have power over your own life, then you will fall victim to the same fate.

Yes,  I  do agree with the experts that you should stand up to the bully.  Just don't allow the bully to have power over your life.  If you are a person who prays, pray for them.  If you happen to be a person who doesn't believe in praying, send them good thoughts.  They obviously need it.  A sane approach to a bully's behavior is to refuse to give them any of your time or energy.   Have PITY for the bully, they need it!

If you look deep inside the life of most bullies, they don't have strong family relationships.  They are usually single.  I wonder why?  Bullies can't generally get along with people so relationships fail.  They tend to be the one who was always picked last on the play ground.  Maybe victim of bullies themselves at one time.  Typical bullies are angry at the world.  Usually they bully the people they are jealous of.  They may look at someone who has the nice house, nice car and beautiful family and envy this.  In turn, they project their anger into being a bully.  They are jealous because they are struggling as a single mother, living on public assistance and being a bully is how they release their anger.  Does this make it right?  Certainly not, but sometimes when you understand the root or history of the bully it makes it clearer as to why they bully. 

I know that after I looked around at the bullies I have had to deal with, I truly understand.  My heart actually goes out to the single mother who only has her computer to live through.  I can now see why she is a bully, she feels life isn't fair.  Or the bully who hasn't had a relationship with her mother in years.  Like I said most bullies have failed relationships.  How sad...  No, it doesn't make their bad behavior OK, but I can actually understand now where their  anger is coming from.  I see why they  looked  at Mckmama with such hate.  Mckmama is everything they wanted to be as a mother, she blogged about how she breastfed, co-sleeper, etc. etc.  It read just like Mckmama, only difference is that her happy ever after didn't happen and I would bet this is when her becoming a bully started.  Her Prince Charming was gone and now she had to face the world alone.  Having to raise 2 children alone and trying to make ends meet isn't anything like Mckmama or her life,  so the jealously set in and a bully was born.   Or knowing that Mckmama has such a strong relationship with her mother and father and maybe the jealously set in knowing that this was something she would never have?

Since I am the praying type,  I will pray for the bullies in my life and hopefully the cycle of being a bully will end with them.  I would hate for the children of these bullies to grow up being bullies themselves.  Your children are a product of the environment in which they are raised, so if you love your children... take a step back and think about the example you are setting for them.  Just like many say Mckmama has children that  will one day read all about their mother on the Internet, your children will also read about you on the Internet.  Is being a bully what you want your children to read about?  Is your legacy going to be "My mother was a bully?"