Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior manifested by the use of force or coercion to affect others, particularly when the behavior is habitual and involves an imbalance of power. It can include verbal harassment, physical assault or coercion and may be directed repeatedly towards particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality, or ability.[2][3] The "imbalance of power" may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a "target".
Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal, and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as intimidation. Bullying can be defined in many different ways. The UK currently has no legal definition of bullying,[4] while some U.S. states have laws against it.[5]
Bullying ranges from simple one-on-one bullying to more complex bullying in which the bully may have one or more 'lieutenants' who may seem to be willing to assist the primary bully in his or her bullying activities. Bullying in school and the workplace is also referred to as peer abuse.[6] Robert W. Fuller has analyzed bullying in the context of rankism.
Bullying can occur in any context in which human beings interact with each other. This includes school, church, family, the workplace, home, and neighborhoods. It is even a common push factor in migration. Bullying can exist between social groups, social classes, and even between countries (see jingoism). In fact, on an international scale, perceived or real imbalances of power between nations, in both economic systems and in treaty systems, are often cited as some of the primary causes of both World War I and World War II.[7][8] source wikipedia
Wednesday, April 25, 2012
Thursday, April 19, 2012
To Judge or Not To Judge
Do you think you have the right to pass judgement on how someone spends their money?
If you do feel you have the right, does this mean you are OK with someone telling you how to spend your money?
Someone from Mwop commented in the last post that they had filed bankruptcy but not because they had done what Mckmama did. How does anyone know exactly what she spent her money on and why is that any blog readers business? The Mwop commenter who filed bankruptcy, how would you feel if every penny you spent for the rest of your life was judged?
I am not debating the right or wrong of Mckmama and her actions over the years. I agree that she has made some bad decisions and has exploited her sick son for blog clicks. The thing I take issue with is people feeling they are entitled to be judge and jury about her finances. If Mckmama decides to flush her money down the toilet is none of my business. Just like what Anja or anyone else does with their money is none of my business. Mckmama being a blogger doesn't give me the right to tell her how to spend her money, just like anyone else in the public eye filing bankruptcy owes me no explanation as to how they spend their money.
This is America, the land of the free. Just because you may not agree with how she spends..we live in a country that allows us the freedom to spend our money how we like. Does this mean she is spending wisely? Maybe not, but again it is not our right to judge. The liberty to be free is a liberty that we all have. Each of us has the freedom to spend our money how ever we like and no one can tell us what we must do. What you spend your money on may seem wasteful to one person..but they have no right to tell you what to do. This is the beauty of our country and that same liberty is given to Mckmama. Doesn't matter if you like her or not. That should not even be a factor in this, but it is for so many. An example is a Mwop commenter said she is receiving state insurance, food stamps and other government resources because her husband doesn't make much money. Now what if everyone said wait one minute..your husband could get another job and why aren't you working? Why are you expecting another baby when you are already using government services? See how judgmental that sounds. How is it any ones right to tell this Mwop commenter that she shouldn't be having another baby? Although it appears the Mwop commenter is abusing the system and sounds like they are not very responsible, doesn't mean anyone has the right to judge. Yet it is OK to judge Mckmama?
Don't even get me started on the name calling. Seriously calling her mother names makes you a bunch of bullies. How does what she looks like have anything to do with calling her out on deception? It doesn't..all it does is prove time and time again that Mwop is filled with many ladies who are nothing more than bullies. How about posting your own picture online and let's see how many names people can call you? I've seen many of these ladies pictures and believe me..they are name calling because they themselves have been called ugly names. When someone called you fat, ugly and manly how did that make you feel? How about that horrible hair you have and don't even get me started on the nose. Now the acne that is a whole different topic! You ladies know who I am talking about..yes you. Doesn't feel good does it? Think about it..you are doing the same thing and if you are mothers what kind of example are you setting for your own children? If you are a mother and you are telling your own child to be nice and use nice words you should practice what you preach. This makes you a hypocrite and not a good role model for your own children if you don't do what you say they should do.
Once again, I agree Mckmama has preyed on her readers for clicks, used her sick child for clicks and gifts and not managed money in the manner in which I would. I don't disagree with any of this..what I disagree with is the extent that people have gone to in thinking they can be judge and jury and the bullying.
Stepping back and looking at how involved you have become in this can help many to see that maybe they are over involved. If Mwop posters had to comment using their REAL NAMES I promise you the hate and nasty comments would stop. The judging would stop and it would hold people accountable. Anja you could moderate comments and no longer allow the nasty bullying if you really wanted your site to be credible. Instead you allow the hate to breed and once her bankruptcy is discharged you will have a shit storm on your hands. We all know what happened with Mwop #1 and the Shaun death threats and I see this being right around the corner. HATE breeds HATE and Mwop is full of HATE!!
If you do feel you have the right, does this mean you are OK with someone telling you how to spend your money?
Someone from Mwop commented in the last post that they had filed bankruptcy but not because they had done what Mckmama did. How does anyone know exactly what she spent her money on and why is that any blog readers business? The Mwop commenter who filed bankruptcy, how would you feel if every penny you spent for the rest of your life was judged?
I am not debating the right or wrong of Mckmama and her actions over the years. I agree that she has made some bad decisions and has exploited her sick son for blog clicks. The thing I take issue with is people feeling they are entitled to be judge and jury about her finances. If Mckmama decides to flush her money down the toilet is none of my business. Just like what Anja or anyone else does with their money is none of my business. Mckmama being a blogger doesn't give me the right to tell her how to spend her money, just like anyone else in the public eye filing bankruptcy owes me no explanation as to how they spend their money.
This is America, the land of the free. Just because you may not agree with how she spends..we live in a country that allows us the freedom to spend our money how we like. Does this mean she is spending wisely? Maybe not, but again it is not our right to judge. The liberty to be free is a liberty that we all have. Each of us has the freedom to spend our money how ever we like and no one can tell us what we must do. What you spend your money on may seem wasteful to one person..but they have no right to tell you what to do. This is the beauty of our country and that same liberty is given to Mckmama. Doesn't matter if you like her or not. That should not even be a factor in this, but it is for so many. An example is a Mwop commenter said she is receiving state insurance, food stamps and other government resources because her husband doesn't make much money. Now what if everyone said wait one minute..your husband could get another job and why aren't you working? Why are you expecting another baby when you are already using government services? See how judgmental that sounds. How is it any ones right to tell this Mwop commenter that she shouldn't be having another baby? Although it appears the Mwop commenter is abusing the system and sounds like they are not very responsible, doesn't mean anyone has the right to judge. Yet it is OK to judge Mckmama?
Don't even get me started on the name calling. Seriously calling her mother names makes you a bunch of bullies. How does what she looks like have anything to do with calling her out on deception? It doesn't..all it does is prove time and time again that Mwop is filled with many ladies who are nothing more than bullies. How about posting your own picture online and let's see how many names people can call you? I've seen many of these ladies pictures and believe me..they are name calling because they themselves have been called ugly names. When someone called you fat, ugly and manly how did that make you feel? How about that horrible hair you have and don't even get me started on the nose. Now the acne that is a whole different topic! You ladies know who I am talking about..yes you. Doesn't feel good does it? Think about it..you are doing the same thing and if you are mothers what kind of example are you setting for your own children? If you are a mother and you are telling your own child to be nice and use nice words you should practice what you preach. This makes you a hypocrite and not a good role model for your own children if you don't do what you say they should do.
Once again, I agree Mckmama has preyed on her readers for clicks, used her sick child for clicks and gifts and not managed money in the manner in which I would. I don't disagree with any of this..what I disagree with is the extent that people have gone to in thinking they can be judge and jury and the bullying.
Stepping back and looking at how involved you have become in this can help many to see that maybe they are over involved. If Mwop posters had to comment using their REAL NAMES I promise you the hate and nasty comments would stop. The judging would stop and it would hold people accountable. Anja you could moderate comments and no longer allow the nasty bullying if you really wanted your site to be credible. Instead you allow the hate to breed and once her bankruptcy is discharged you will have a shit storm on your hands. We all know what happened with Mwop #1 and the Shaun death threats and I see this being right around the corner. HATE breeds HATE and Mwop is full of HATE!!
Thursday, April 5, 2012
Happy Easter
I've taken this season of Lent to step away from blogging.
It has felt wonderful to not read all the back and forth and to actually spend my time doing other fun things.
Stepping away for an extended period of time has allowed me to get totally unpacked, decorate and prepare for a large gathering at my house this weekend. Family is on the way for a fun filled 4 day weekend. Easter baskets are made and eggs are waiting for 4 little girls to color them all the beautiful colors of the rainbow. Don't think for one minute I will not be right in the middle of this fun adventure and I will probably still be dying them long after they are bored with it all! Can't wait for Easter Egg hunts and the looks on their faces on Easter morning after the Easter bunny has passed. We will also practice our faith and celebrate the true meaning of Easter and reflect on how grateful we are.
I hope each of you can spend time with the ones you love most in this world. Celebrate family and friends even if you choose not to celebrate Easter.
I'll be back on Monday and back to blogging. I've got some things to say but I promised myself I wouldn't comment until after Lent. So until then...have a good one!
It has felt wonderful to not read all the back and forth and to actually spend my time doing other fun things.
Stepping away for an extended period of time has allowed me to get totally unpacked, decorate and prepare for a large gathering at my house this weekend. Family is on the way for a fun filled 4 day weekend. Easter baskets are made and eggs are waiting for 4 little girls to color them all the beautiful colors of the rainbow. Don't think for one minute I will not be right in the middle of this fun adventure and I will probably still be dying them long after they are bored with it all! Can't wait for Easter Egg hunts and the looks on their faces on Easter morning after the Easter bunny has passed. We will also practice our faith and celebrate the true meaning of Easter and reflect on how grateful we are.
I hope each of you can spend time with the ones you love most in this world. Celebrate family and friends even if you choose not to celebrate Easter.
I'll be back on Monday and back to blogging. I've got some things to say but I promised myself I wouldn't comment until after Lent. So until then...have a good one!
Thursday, March 15, 2012
New Post
Just wanted to let everyone know I had to put the blog back on moderation.
I'm still checking on some other opinions for commenting and I will let everyone know once I make a decision.
Right now the attention seems to be focused on JM and her new diet affiliation. Everything I have seen written by JM has said "Check With Your Dr" so I'm not sure what all the drama is about.
I still believe that it will never matter what she does for some, fault and drama will follow what ever JM does. Maybe this is why she no longer cares since it will be picked apart anyway?
Blogging is her business, just like Dooce, Kelle Hampton and many others. Fault, exploitation and embellishment can be found in ALL bloggers, that is if you look objectively. It's a business, just like reality television is a business. How you take it is up to you. I've seen Kelle Hampton post pictures and say things like "we went to the woods today to have a tea party" but yet in the next breath she states they went to the beach? I could pick her apart and say she is a lying liar, but in reality I look at it as she may have written the post to cover a few different days. One day they probably did have a tea party in the woods and maybe the next day they went to the beach. I don't look at that as wordsmithing or lying. Again, with JM fault will always be found by many.
I can truthfully say I have seen massive change for the better with JM. The recent drama about the pictures of her children and the butt crack were uncalled for. Anyone who is finding fault with that is not being fair.
Just my humble opinion.
I'm still checking on some other opinions for commenting and I will let everyone know once I make a decision.
Right now the attention seems to be focused on JM and her new diet affiliation. Everything I have seen written by JM has said "Check With Your Dr" so I'm not sure what all the drama is about.
I still believe that it will never matter what she does for some, fault and drama will follow what ever JM does. Maybe this is why she no longer cares since it will be picked apart anyway?
Blogging is her business, just like Dooce, Kelle Hampton and many others. Fault, exploitation and embellishment can be found in ALL bloggers, that is if you look objectively. It's a business, just like reality television is a business. How you take it is up to you. I've seen Kelle Hampton post pictures and say things like "we went to the woods today to have a tea party" but yet in the next breath she states they went to the beach? I could pick her apart and say she is a lying liar, but in reality I look at it as she may have written the post to cover a few different days. One day they probably did have a tea party in the woods and maybe the next day they went to the beach. I don't look at that as wordsmithing or lying. Again, with JM fault will always be found by many.
I can truthfully say I have seen massive change for the better with JM. The recent drama about the pictures of her children and the butt crack were uncalled for. Anyone who is finding fault with that is not being fair.
Just my humble opinion.
Friday, February 24, 2012
New Path For Bullies Without Pity
UPDATE: There seems to be a question about the links that are currently posted. I guess I didn't make it clear. I was talking about links giving Mckmama's new house information. The current links are fine because they are links about what this blog stands for. I have no problem with links like this. I just will not allow links that are posted to cause harm to anyone or to give information about someone who hasn't made that information public. Hope that clears that up. Hope everyone had a great weekend, I know I did! I also have no problem with links to other blogs if you find something interesting you would like to share or discuss.
Hello Ladies:
I know I said I was going to take a backseat with this blog and just allow everyone a safe place to voice their opinions.
Well we see how well that worked out!
I am still going to keep my commenting to a minimum since when I comment it brings the bullies here to lash out, but I have decided to keep the comments on moderation for now. By doing this I will have to be around more so I may have something to say from time to time. You know answering questions or explaining things.
One thing I would like to make 100% clear for everyone is the following:
* This blog will keep the language clean (work with me on this)
* NO THREATS to anyone!
* You can disagree with someone but please be respectful.
* NO LINKS or listing of addresses of anyone or telephone numbers.
* No talking bad about ANY children.
These are the same rules we have always had but it appears by the number of comments I have had to delete lately these needed to be said again.
Sorry about the comment moderation because I know it makes it harder to have a conversation with others. It's sad but every single time this blog calls the bullies out..this is the price we must pay. Give it some time and they get bored and move on and I can once again remove the moderation. With Mwop saying they will be down over the weekend I know they will be coming here to spill their hate so the moderation will stay in place for now.
Have a nice weekend everyone!
Hello Ladies:
I know I said I was going to take a backseat with this blog and just allow everyone a safe place to voice their opinions.
Well we see how well that worked out!
I am still going to keep my commenting to a minimum since when I comment it brings the bullies here to lash out, but I have decided to keep the comments on moderation for now. By doing this I will have to be around more so I may have something to say from time to time. You know answering questions or explaining things.
One thing I would like to make 100% clear for everyone is the following:
* This blog will keep the language clean (work with me on this)
* NO THREATS to anyone!
* You can disagree with someone but please be respectful.
* NO LINKS or listing of addresses of anyone or telephone numbers.
* No talking bad about ANY children.
These are the same rules we have always had but it appears by the number of comments I have had to delete lately these needed to be said again.
Sorry about the comment moderation because I know it makes it harder to have a conversation with others. It's sad but every single time this blog calls the bullies out..this is the price we must pay. Give it some time and they get bored and move on and I can once again remove the moderation. With Mwop saying they will be down over the weekend I know they will be coming here to spill their hate so the moderation will stay in place for now.
Have a nice weekend everyone!
Tuesday, February 21, 2012
NEW POST
Here is a new post to continue with comments.
UPDATE: Someone from MWOP posted the location of Mckmama's new house on this site. The info has been deleted. If you see this site mentioned in a negative way at MWOP you can flag the comment. Hold your cursor over the flag and a box will appear, hit flag comment in the box. You should flag it at least 5 times to make sure it is removed. This will make the MWOPers very angry because they hate when their comments are flagged. The dead giveaway that Anja is OK with them posting the location on this site is she normally will not allow this site to be mentioned, yet today it is OK????
PORNgate is what this reminds me of. See Anja is no better than Shell. At least Shell owns what she does and didn't put her readers up to doing her dirty work. Anja you should be ashamed of yourself and ashamed of the women you are breeding over at MWOP!
UPDATE: Someone from MWOP posted the location of Mckmama's new house on this site. The info has been deleted. If you see this site mentioned in a negative way at MWOP you can flag the comment. Hold your cursor over the flag and a box will appear, hit flag comment in the box. You should flag it at least 5 times to make sure it is removed. This will make the MWOPers very angry because they hate when their comments are flagged. The dead giveaway that Anja is OK with them posting the location on this site is she normally will not allow this site to be mentioned, yet today it is OK????
PORNgate is what this reminds me of. See Anja is no better than Shell. At least Shell owns what she does and didn't put her readers up to doing her dirty work. Anja you should be ashamed of yourself and ashamed of the women you are breeding over at MWOP!
Thursday, February 9, 2012
Changes..
I've really been thinking of what to say and how to say this, so please be patient with me as I try to express this.
I've waited a few days to really think about this decision and how best to continue from here.
As many have noticed I have removed the moderation on the comments. I will not post them, but let's just say the nasty, cruel things that were said about me and my family are shocking. It's one thing to call me names, but when you attack my children and grandchildren..well let's just say I was ready to claw some eyes out. Yes, I was angry and hurt. This is why I had to moderate the comments. I will moderate again if I have to.
Pink left a comment on the last post and this is a part of what she said:
That experience made me step back from MWOP and the MckDrama and stepping back showed me how much time and emotional energy I was giving the whole mess. You know what? I DO have better things to do! And so do the others that are dedicated to MWOP and spend large portions of their days and nights there. Places like MWOP suck you in and keep a powerful hold--if you allow them too.
Pink I agree with you 100%.
I've decided to step back from commenting here. It seems like if I voice my opinion it brings the crazies here to try and pick a fight. Believe me I know who they are and I also know they are mad because I called them out for being bullies. That's fine and I accept that..I just feel it takes away from the discussion and the purpose of this blog.
From now on I will delete any mention of me on this blog. I will not explain and I will not defend my action. This blog isn't my personal blog about me. This blog is about blogs that bully and things about blogging people may not like.
I will try and put up a new post at least once a week. If someone wants to talk about something you can discuss it in the comments or if you like, email me and it can be an entire post.
UPDATE:
If you missed the news in the comments I just wanted to let you guys know the FAKE FACEBOOK account has been deleted. Facebook security department contacted me yesterday and said it was GONE. They have the ISP and have listed it as violation of the TOA with Facebook and added it to a blacklist? :)
I've waited a few days to really think about this decision and how best to continue from here.
As many have noticed I have removed the moderation on the comments. I will not post them, but let's just say the nasty, cruel things that were said about me and my family are shocking. It's one thing to call me names, but when you attack my children and grandchildren..well let's just say I was ready to claw some eyes out. Yes, I was angry and hurt. This is why I had to moderate the comments. I will moderate again if I have to.
Pink left a comment on the last post and this is a part of what she said:
That experience made me step back from MWOP and the MckDrama and stepping back showed me how much time and emotional energy I was giving the whole mess. You know what? I DO have better things to do! And so do the others that are dedicated to MWOP and spend large portions of their days and nights there. Places like MWOP suck you in and keep a powerful hold--if you allow them too.
Pink I agree with you 100%.
I've decided to step back from commenting here. It seems like if I voice my opinion it brings the crazies here to try and pick a fight. Believe me I know who they are and I also know they are mad because I called them out for being bullies. That's fine and I accept that..I just feel it takes away from the discussion and the purpose of this blog.
From now on I will delete any mention of me on this blog. I will not explain and I will not defend my action. This blog isn't my personal blog about me. This blog is about blogs that bully and things about blogging people may not like.
I will try and put up a new post at least once a week. If someone wants to talk about something you can discuss it in the comments or if you like, email me and it can be an entire post.
UPDATE:
If you missed the news in the comments I just wanted to let you guys know the FAKE FACEBOOK account has been deleted. Facebook security department contacted me yesterday and said it was GONE. They have the ISP and have listed it as violation of the TOA with Facebook and added it to a blacklist? :)