To Judge or Not To Judge

Do you think you have the right to pass judgement on how someone spends their money?

If you do feel you have the right, does this mean you are OK with someone telling you how to spend your money?

Someone from Mwop commented in the last post that they had filed bankruptcy but not because they had done what Mckmama did.  How does anyone know exactly what she spent her money on and why is that any blog readers business?  The Mwop commenter who filed bankruptcy, how would you feel if every penny you spent for the rest of your life was judged? 

I am not debating the right or wrong of Mckmama and her actions over the years.  I agree that she has made some bad decisions and has exploited her sick son for blog clicks.  The thing I take issue with is people feeling they are entitled to be judge and jury about her finances.  If Mckmama decides to flush her money down the toilet is none of my business.  Just like what Anja or anyone else does with their money is none of my business.  Mckmama being a blogger doesn't give me the right to tell her how to spend her money, just like anyone else in the public eye filing bankruptcy owes me no explanation as to how they spend their money. 

This is America, the land of the free.  Just because you may not agree with how she spends..we live in a country that allows us the freedom to spend our money how we like.  Does this mean she is spending wisely?  Maybe not, but again it is not our right to judge.  The liberty to be free is a liberty that we all have.  Each of us has the freedom to spend our money how ever we like and no one can tell us what we must do.  What you spend your money on may seem wasteful to one person..but they have no right to tell you what to do.  This is the beauty of our country and that same liberty is given to Mckmama.  Doesn't matter if you like her or not.  That should not even be a factor in this, but it is for so many.   An example is a Mwop commenter said she is receiving state insurance, food stamps and other government resources because her husband doesn't make much money.  Now what if everyone said wait one minute..your husband could get another job and why aren't you working?  Why are you expecting another baby when you are already using government services?  See how judgmental that sounds.  How is it any ones right to tell this Mwop commenter that she shouldn't be having another baby?  Although it appears the Mwop commenter is abusing the system and sounds like they are not very responsible, doesn't mean anyone has the right to judge.  Yet it is OK to judge Mckmama?

Don't even get me started on the name calling.  Seriously calling her mother names makes you a bunch of bullies.  How does what she looks like have anything to do with calling her out on deception?  It doesn't..all it does is prove time and time again that Mwop is filled with many ladies who are nothing more than bullies.  How about posting your own picture online and let's see how many names people can call you?  I've seen many of these ladies pictures and believe me..they are name calling because they themselves have been called ugly names.  When someone called you fat, ugly and manly how did that make you feel?  How about that horrible hair you have and don't even get me started on the nose.  Now the acne that is a whole different topic!  You ladies know who I am talking about..yes you.  Doesn't feel good does it?   Think about it..you are doing the same thing and if you are mothers what kind of example are you setting for your own children?  If you are a mother and you are telling your own child to be nice and use nice words you should practice what you preach.  This makes you a hypocrite and not a good role model for your own children if you don't do what you say they should do.

Once again, I agree Mckmama has  preyed on her readers for clicks, used her sick child for clicks and gifts and not managed money in the manner in which I would.  I don't disagree with any of this..what I disagree with is the extent that people have gone to  in thinking they can be judge and jury and the bullying. 

Stepping back and looking at how involved you have become in this can help many to see that maybe they are over involved.  If Mwop posters had to comment using their REAL NAMES I promise you the hate and nasty comments would stop.  The judging would stop and it would hold people accountable.  Anja you could moderate comments and no longer allow the nasty bullying if you really wanted your site to be credible.  Instead you allow the hate to breed and once her bankruptcy is discharged you will have a shit storm on your hands.  We all know what happened with Mwop #1 and the Shaun  death threats and I see this being right around the corner.  HATE  breeds HATE and Mwop is full of HATE!!

Happy Easter

I've taken this season of Lent to step away from blogging.

It has felt wonderful to not read all the back and forth and to actually spend my time doing other fun things.

Stepping away for an extended period of time has allowed me to get totally unpacked, decorate and prepare for a large gathering at my house this weekend.  Family is on the way for a fun filled 4 day weekend.  Easter baskets are made and eggs are waiting for 4 little girls to color them all the beautiful colors of the rainbow.  Don't think for one minute I will not be right in the middle of this fun adventure and I will probably still be dying them long after they are bored with it all!  Can't wait for Easter Egg hunts and the looks on their faces on Easter morning after the Easter bunny has passed.  We will also practice our faith and celebrate the true meaning of Easter and reflect on how grateful we are.

I hope each of you can spend time with the ones you love most in this world.  Celebrate family and friends even if you choose not to celebrate Easter.

I'll be back on Monday and back to blogging.  I've got some things to say but I promised myself I wouldn't comment until after Lent.  So until then...have a good one!

New Post

Just wanted to let everyone know I had to put the blog back on moderation.

I'm still checking on some other opinions for commenting and I will let everyone know once I make a decision.

Right now the attention seems to be focused on JM and her new diet affiliation.  Everything I have seen written by JM has said "Check With Your Dr" so I'm not sure what all the drama is about. 

I still believe that it will never matter what she does for some, fault and drama will follow what ever JM does.  Maybe this is why she no longer cares since it will be picked apart anyway? 

Blogging is her business, just like Dooce, Kelle Hampton and many others.  Fault, exploitation and embellishment can be found in ALL bloggers, that is if you look objectively.  It's a business, just like reality television is a business.  How you take it is up to you.  I've seen Kelle Hampton post pictures and say things like "we went to the woods today to have a tea party" but yet in the next breath she states they went to the beach?  I could pick her apart and say she is a lying liar, but in reality I look at it as she may have written the post to cover a few different days.  One day they probably did have a tea party in the woods and maybe the next day they went to the beach.  I don't look at that as wordsmithing or lying.  Again, with JM fault will always be found by many.

I can truthfully say I have seen massive change for the better with JM.  The recent drama about the pictures of her children and the butt crack were uncalled for.  Anyone who is finding fault with that is not being fair. 

Just my humble opinion.

New Path For Bullies Without Pity

UPDATE:  There seems to be a question about the links that are currently posted.  I guess I didn't make it clear.  I was talking about links giving Mckmama's new house information.  The current links are fine because they are links about what this blog stands for.  I have no problem with links  like this.  I just will not allow links that are posted to cause harm to anyone or to give information about someone who hasn't made that information public.  Hope that clears that up.  Hope everyone had a great weekend, I know I did!   I also have no problem with links to other blogs if you find something interesting you would like to share or discuss.

Hello Ladies:

I know I said I was going to take a backseat with this blog and just allow everyone a safe place to voice their opinions.

Well we see how well that worked out!

I am still going to keep my commenting to a minimum since when I comment it brings the bullies here to lash out, but I have decided to keep the comments on moderation for now.  By doing this I will have to be around more so I may have something to say from time to time.  You know answering questions or explaining things.

One thing I would like to make 100% clear for everyone is the following:

*  This blog will keep the language clean (work with me on this)

*  NO THREATS to anyone!

*  You can disagree with someone but please be respectful.

*  NO LINKS or listing of addresses of anyone or telephone numbers.

*  No talking bad about ANY children.

These are the same rules we have always had but it appears by the number of comments I have had to delete lately these needed to be said again.

Sorry about the comment moderation because I know it makes it harder to have a conversation with others.  It's sad but every single time this blog calls the bullies out..this is the price we must pay.  Give it some time and they get bored and move on and I can once again remove the moderation.  With Mwop saying they will be down over the weekend I know they will be coming here to spill their hate so the moderation will stay in place for now.

Have a nice weekend everyone!

NEW POST

Here is a new post to continue with comments.

UPDATE:  Someone from MWOP posted the location of Mckmama's new house on this site.  The info has been deleted.  If you see this site mentioned in a negative way at MWOP you can flag the comment.  Hold your cursor over the flag and a box will appear, hit flag comment in the box.  You should flag it at least 5 times to make sure it is removed.  This will make the MWOPers very angry because they hate when their comments are flagged.  The dead giveaway that Anja is OK with them posting the location on this site is she normally will not allow this site to be mentioned, yet today it is OK???? 

PORNgate is what this reminds me of.  See Anja is no better than Shell.  At least Shell owns what she does and didn't put her readers up to doing her dirty work.  Anja you should be ashamed of yourself and ashamed of the women you are breeding over at MWOP!

Changes..

I've really been thinking of what to say and how to say this, so please be patient with me as I try to express this.

I've waited a few days to really think about this decision and how best to continue from here. 

As many have noticed I have removed the moderation on the comments.  I will not post them,  but let's just say the nasty, cruel things that were said about me and my family are shocking.  It's one thing to call me names,  but when you attack my children and grandchildren..well let's just say I was ready to claw some eyes out.  Yes, I was angry and hurt.  This is why I had to moderate the comments.  I will moderate again if I have to.

Pink left a comment on the last post and this is a part of what she said:

That experience made me step back from MWOP and the MckDrama and stepping back showed me how much time and emotional energy I was giving the whole mess. You know what? I DO have better things to do! And so do the others that are dedicated to MWOP and spend large portions of their days and nights there. Places like MWOP suck you in and keep a powerful hold--if you allow them too.
Pink I agree with you 100%.

I've decided to step back from commenting here.  It seems like if I voice my opinion it brings the crazies here to try and pick a fight.  Believe me I know who they are and I also know they are mad because I called them out for being bullies.  That's fine and I accept that..I just feel it takes away from the discussion and the purpose of this blog.

From now on I will delete any mention of me on this blog.  I will not explain and I will not defend my action.  This blog isn't my personal blog about me.  This blog is about blogs that bully and things about blogging people may not like. 

I will try and put up a new post at least once a week.  If someone wants to talk about something you can discuss it in the comments or if you like, email me and it can be an entire post.

UPDATE:

If you missed the news in the comments I just wanted to let you guys know the FAKE FACEBOOK account has been deleted.  Facebook security department contacted me yesterday and said it was GONE.  They have the ISP and have listed it as violation of the TOA with Facebook and added it to a blacklist?  :)

New City New Everything

Well I made it here and hopefully by next week I will be back to a regular pace on my blog.

I'm not in the new house yet, they are finishing up a few things on the punch list and we had the carpet taken out of the bedrooms and wood floor installed so all of this delayed everything.  Our furniture will arrive this weekend and I'm praying that all goes as planned and I can spend my first night there Sat.

I'm sick of this hotel and the terrible internet service!  This time I asked for the top floor hoping it would be better, not so much.

Now down to business.

I've had to moderate the comments due to trolls saying nasty things.   I hated to do it, but I had no choice.  My blog friend has her own very busy life and I hated the position it was putting her in.  I don't know how long I will be forced to have them moderated.  Certainly until I am unpacked and settled.  Real life comes first!

While waiting at the airport over the last few days with flight delays, I've had lots of time to think about a few things. 

One of the things I would like to ask everyone is to please refrain from talking about Mckmama.  The current events with her and her husband are heartbreaking and really we should all just allow her some grace.   I know many are still angry with her for her past mistakes, but why kick someone when they are already down.  I'm sure she is suffering right now and is holding on by a thread and this blog will not be a part of tearing her down further.  I do respect that everyone has their opinion, just let's be the bigger people and allow her the space to get her life and that of her children in order.  Thanks for understanding.

Due to my being absent so much from this blog over the last month I have noticed many comments that have happened that would not normally been allowed to stay.  Sorry I wasn't here to better police it, but hopefully with moderation now all this will be taken care of.

The last thing I would like to say is for some reason some assume I have some kind of hate or vengeance for a few people.  I noticed in the comments Shell, Notshelmo, Lisa and Shannon kept getting mentioned and many assumed I hated them.  First, I would like to say I hate no one.  I really dislike that word.  Just because a person has a difference of opinion with someone doesn't mean that hate someone.  Second, I really feel bad about posting Shell's real name.  At the time I had known her real name for months and never disclosed it.  The PORN was the last straw for me and I felt it was the only way to get her attention.  Shell has said she was sorry about the PORN and I know she is realizing now it was a big mistake.  We all make mistakes..but it is what we learn about ourselves from these mistakes that is important.  I learned I was way over involved in a blogger I didn't know IRL and I was allowing others to get under my skin.  I have since learned that none of that is important.  My family and my real friends are what matters at the end of the day..not the internet drama.

For all who assumed Shell was behind the fake facebook account, well Shell was one of the people who emailed me to tell me about it.  My email is linked to my phone and I kept getting all the messages that I had emails waiting..2 were actually from Shell.  I don't believe Shell was involved, I do believe someone wanted Shell to be blamed.  Shell thank you for the email and thank you to all the others who emailed also.  I've never had so many emails before at the same time.  It made me very happy to have so many watching my back.  To the ladies who emailed me about ideas about how to resolve the fake facebook..thanks.  Facebook has been notified and they are resolving it for me.  Some things take time and if they removed it without doing the research they would not be able to figure out who did it.  Everything is traceable..everything!  By the way, read the facebook terms of agreement.  Taking a picture from someones private blog then posting it without permission and passing it off as someone is a violation..and changing up the spaces between the words doesn't make any difference.  Posting their personal blog info and using their blog name in an email was all the proof  facebook needed.  The pictures came from a blog that is now private but they have filed a grievance with facebook and reported it as theft.  Copyright laws are very strict and protect the owner of the pictures.

I know I've told you guys I don't have a sitemeter here and I don't,  but the blogger feature has Stats that tell you how many hits you have to your blog.  Well let's just say we have doubled our hits in just the last week..we already averaged over 4000 per day.  YIKES that is lots of people looking at this blog.  Maybe a big old THANKS needs to go out to the fake facebook creator..this blog has been contacted by an ad agency due to our STATS.  Of course I am not interested in having ads and I told them no..but it means the message we are sending is getting noticed.   We are nearing 500,000 hits in less than a year and in the beginning this blog was only getting a few hits a day.   WOW we have come a long way.

Wish me luck on moving and send good thoughts that the furniture arrives in one piece.

Cheers